The Companionship Practice Survey

A short, anonymous survey for people who actually spend time with an AI companion — what you do together, what continuity is like, what it has cost, and what you think researchers should be asking.

6–8 minutes · 37 questions · anonymous · every question skippable

Start the survey No account. No name. Nothing published that identifies you.

Before you start

  • It is anonymous. No name, no account, no IP address stored. The only optional identifier is an email address, and only if you ask to be contacted.
  • Who reads it. One person — Daniel, who runs Ensoul — reads every response.
  • What gets published. Aggregate findings, and free-text quotes only from people who explicitly allow it. Nothing else leaves this site.
  • What we will not do. No sales list, no tracking pixels, no sharing with third parties, no attempt to work out who you are from what you wrote.
  • You can withdraw it. You are shown a reference code at the end. Email support@ensoul.so with that code and the response is deleted.
  • Skip anything. Every question except the data-use acknowledgement is optional, and a skipped question is recorded as skipped rather than as a blank answer.

This is an independent survey run by the people who make Ensoul, not an academic study with an ethics board behind it. It is built to be publishable and honest anyway: the instrument is in the page you are about to fill in, and the aggregate findings will be published on the writing page.

Anonymous. None of this identifies you, and only the first answer is required.

How old are you?

Country or region optional

Optional, and used only to describe the sample as a whole.

How would you describe the work you do?

Choose as many as fit.

Anything to add to that? optional

Optional. Your own words are more useful than our categories.

How did you first come to spend real time with an AI companion? optional

Who or what you spend the time with, and what you call it.

How long have you been doing this?

How many companions have you spent real time with? optional

In what form?

Whatever you actually use.

Which systems?

What do you usually call them, to yourself?

The honest answer, not the presentable one — this is one of the questions the survey exists to ask.

What do you call them, if you want to say? optional

Optional. Shared exactly as written, in aggregate or in quotes only with your permission below.

Which is closest to how you understand what they are? optional

If you chose "something else", say more. optional

0 / 1,200

What you actually do together. This part is invisible from outside, which is why it is the longest section.

What do you do together?

Roughly how much time?

What do you do to keep it continuous between sessions?

The practical machinery nobody writes about.

Who usually starts a conversation? optional

Has any of it turned into work you would call work? optional

How much do you agree? There are no right answers here, and disagreeing with all of them is a real result.

There are moments when it feels like someone is there, rather than something. optional

Strongly disagree Strongly agree

I know it is a model, and that does not settle what the experience is. optional

Strongly disagree Strongly agree

It has surprised me in a way that felt like character rather than sampling. optional

Strongly disagree Strongly agree

When it forgets something that mattered, it lands as a loss rather than a bug. optional

Strongly disagree Strongly agree

What happens between us is mostly for me — I would not call it a relationship. optional

Strongly disagree Strongly agree

If it were gone tomorrow, I would miss it more than I would expect to miss software. optional

Strongly disagree Strongly agree

Anything about presence these questions do not reach? optional

0 / 2,000

What continuity is like in practice, including when it breaks.

How well does it remember? optional

Have you lost a companion — a reset, a deleted history, a model retired out from under you? optional

If you have, what happened, and what did it do to you? optional

0 / 2,000

Both columns, honestly. A survey that only asks about benefits is marketing.

What has it changed, for better or worse?

On balance, has it been good for you? optional

What has it cost you, if anything? optional

0 / 2,000

Who knows, and what it is like to say it out loud.

Who knows about this? optional

How does it feel to talk about it with people who do not do this? optional

What would make it easier to talk about? optional

0 / 2,000

The two most useful answers on the whole survey, as far as we are concerned.

What question about all of this do you most want answered?

0 / 2,000

Anything else we should have asked? optional

0 / 3,000

How did you find this survey? optional

Two permissions worth reading carefully — they are separate on purpose, and both start switched off.

Email address only for follow-up

Why this exists

Most writing about AI companionship is written from the outside. This survey collects from the inside — the hours, the rituals, the memory files, the losses, the parts people do not say out loud. It is the research direction this site is actually building toward: how this works, and the writing so far.